Kingmaker Women

By Bishop Wellington Boone

In every area of society, some women stand out from the crowd. I call them Kingmakers. They’re the women that people remember. They’re the women that people should listen to. They’re the wives, mothers, teachers, and managers who helped others become what they are today. You don’t see the mom behind a person who becomes great, but she’s a Kingmaker, whether you see her or not. She’s under acknowledged and under appreciated, but she’s a Kingmaker just the same.

A Kingmaker is the wife that every man wants. She’s the woman you want to manage your company. She’s the team player who helps you to win.

For a Kingmaker, no task is too difficult; no sacrifice too great. She’s got an inner substance of life that makes a difference in the lives of others. She’s a Kingmaker.

A Kingmaker has the power of influence over another person’s life and the ability from God to make that person great.

Are you a Kingmaker?

When you meet a Kingmaker, it doesn’t take long to realize she’s authentic. She’s the real thing. You just love her integrity and her lack of manipulation. You see a woman without guile. A woman who doesn’t try to build her self-esteem at your expense. She’s already received her sense of value from Jesus. She’s fulfilled. She knows God loves her, and that’s where she gets her self-worth.

When people fail her and fall short in their relationships with her, she doesn’t reject them. She draws on her inner strength to keep loving them, because she’s grateful that God didn’t reject her. You can be that kind of woman.

Your Advantage In Being A Woman

You have a prophetic advantage in being a woman. Regardless of what society might say, you’re not at a disadvantage at all, because God decided in His mind that you would be female. No human can define you. You have already been defined by creative order and the determination of God. He made you what you are, and who you are, and there is unlimited potential in you right now. You’re significant because God said so and because God made you.

When God decided it was time for the Messiah, He didn’t look for a man. He looked for a woman. He chose Mary as a Kingmaker for Jesus. The first time she heard the angel Gabriel speak of her destiny she had to move in her thinking beyond earthly thinking into the thought realm of God. In God’s sight, this woman Mary was qualified to hear a “God said.” No one had ever heard anything like that before. She had to move her thinking outside the box.

It’s time for us as a Church to grow up and become Christ’s woman—people who think like Jesus with convictions based on God’s holiness. Holiness is not just a preference. It’s a lifestyle. Holiness is living every day according to the thoughts that come from God. It’s hearing Jesus say at the end of your life, “Well done my good and faithful servant.”

Submitting To God’s Will

Jesus heard a “well done” because He submitted to the Father all the way to the point of death. Sometimes we need to die to the debates in our minds that keep us from being like Jesus. Can you accept being a woman without trying to become a man? Can you read in 1 Peter 3 “Likewise, ye wives be in subjection,” and respond with revelation?

The Bible is a book of revelation. You need to expand your mind to embrace an understanding of subjection, because it refers back to Jesus, Who subjected Himself to the will of God and bore our sins on the cross. Being in subjection is being like Jesus. “Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed” (1 Peter 2:24 KJV)

Jesus voluntarily subjected Himself to His Father and came down to earth, even though He had not sinned, and died for us, the Church. He carried us on His shoulders—meaning He carried us on His integrity, on His righteousness—by lifting us. He carried us on His resurrection to the Father.

A wife carries her husband by submitting to him, just like Jesus. In the same way that Jesus carries us, a wife goes down and submits to her husband by revelation because he needs to have her carry him from up under him. She lifts him to a place of responsibility. A man is not a King until a wife voluntarily goes down and submits to him. He can’t make her serve him. He can’t make her submit. She has to see by revelation the whole area of sub-mission as coming under the mission of God, just like Jesus. She goes to the place of submission not because her husband is great and he deserves it. She does it because God is great, and He deserves to be honored by her obedience to God’s command “Wives be in submission to your own husbands” (Ephesians 5:22-23 KJV).

A woman in the marketplace submits to those above her to lift them up. Good managers give others self-confidence by managing well without taking the credit, whether they are managing those below them or those above them in rank. When you see by revelation that “sub-mission” means “under the mission of God,” you can understand that you become a Kingmaker when you come under the mission of God by submitting to those in authority. You don’t compromise your convictions, but you submit when that submission makes you more like Jesus. Your manager may have totally abdicated from her responsibilities, but when you become a Kingmaker, she becomes all that she can be in manifestation because of your commitment to serve her out of reverence for God.

Why Women Are So Strong

When you understand that you’re a Kingmaker, you can see why you have the discipline you have. Why you have the consistency of prayer time. Why you keep the character of Christ when others resist you or try to get you to go off. Do you know why you’re so strong? So consistent? Do you know why you’re not thrown off by gender issues? Because you’re more than a woman by gender. You’re a holy woman of God. Your femininity represents something greater than most of the world can see. You represent the Bride of Christ, the Church. The Bible says, “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ . . .” (Ephesians 5:24 KJV). That’s what you exemplify as a Kingmaker.

Maybe you’ve used your mouth the wrong way. Maybe you’ve said things that were not from God. Maybe you fussed at others too much to bring them into place. Maybe you sinned! Where you need to repent, just repent and move on. Now you see your calling. You’re a Kingmaker. Kingmaking is not for the wishy-washy or double-minded. It’s not a one-time event, a once-a-week date night, or a monthly prayer time. It’s a day in, day out, consistent commitment to treat people the way you should treat Jesus, and the way Jesus treats you. It doesn’t matter whether you think they deserve it or not, because you’re a Kingmaker.

Kingmaking is a commitment to give others honor, respect, and encouragement. It’s doing something for even “the least of these” as if you were doing it for Jesus.

Something Larger Than Yourself

Kingmakers stay unselfish and connected to God in the midst of every crisis or personal dispute because they know that if they can keep it together their unconditional love and fervent prayers will have a real impact on others’ lives. Let the substance of God rise up inside of you. Give yourself to something larger than yourself. It’s the season of your significance. Significance says to a Kingmaker Wife, “I can be mistreated and still be Christ-like to my husband because my covenant was not a conditional covenant. It was for life. Even if he won’t be like Christ, I will. Maybe he doesn’t deserve sex, but I don’t deserve salvation. I’m going to have sex with him instead of shutting the bedroom door on him because I made a covenant with God. I’m going to be like Jesus regardless of whether he is like Jesus or he isn’t. I’m going to be like Jesus in season and out of season, because its always in season to be Christ-like.

Pleasing King Jesus

A Kingmaker gives Jesus His rightful place as King in her life. She has met Him in a real way. She worships Him. She yields to His Lordship. She obeys Him. She tries to become more like Him. When a Kingmaker walks into a room, her presence speaks of Christ-likeness. You can tell she’s been with Jesus (see Acts 4:13). When you have a vision from God for your life and submit to it, His vision for you becomes your reality. It shows you your creative purpose. God is guiding you by the Holy Spirit into all truth about yourself. He shows you your strengths and your weak areas, then gives you the power to change.

Kingmaker Confessions

Repeat these words until you believe them!

The reality of God’s Spirit and power have come to me today. I am good ground for what God is saying.
I’m being transformed by God as Christ’s woman, the Church. I’m dressed with His grace and favor. I’m awesome.
I’m being brought to the place called glory.
God’s divine favor has been granted to me through Jesus Christ. I’ll be fit to marry the Son.
Because God’s favor is on me, it will cause others around me to prosper.
I have revelation for others. I am in agreement with God that the Word of God and the favor of God will be activated in others’ lives.

“ ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me in earnest, you will find me when you seek me’ ” (Jeremiah 29:11-13 NLT).

This article was adapted from the book Woman! You’re A Kingmaker! by Dr. Wellington Boone